Adolescent defiance. A most natural combination. Lately though, it seems as if more and more adolescents are being brought to therapy because of their defiance. Some parents are searching for "a quick fix" for their child's defiance. A certain level of defiance is completely natural and healthy for children to exhibit. It is his/her way of expressing themselves as "I" within the family system of "we". Some parents tend to take it personally and forget their role as parent. If your child is defying you, it is an opportunity for you to establish and confirm boundaries within the family. It's a way to know that you are doing a good job! If your children consistently get their way, you are training them to exist in a world that doesn't.